The Domestic Violence Division of the Cleveland County District Attorney’s Office prosecutes both misdemeanor and felony domestic violence crimes. On average in the United States, a woman is abused every nine seconds and four women are murdered by their partner every day. Because of the pervasiveness of this crime, it is our position that domestic violence is a crime against society, not a private family matter, and should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.

The Domestic Violence Division pledges to treat all domestic violence victims with the dignity and understanding they deserve. We will file criminal charges whenever there is legally sufficient evidence of a domestic violence crime and hope that all victims cooperate with our efforts. However, because our client, the People of the State of Oklahoma, have an interest in protecting the safety of domestic violence victims and holding perpetrators accountable for their crimes, the Domestic Violence Division may proceed with domestic violence prosecutions with or without the victim’s participation in the case.

Because these cases can be difficult on victims, the Domestic Violence Division is comprised of both prosecutors and victim-witness advocates who assist victims through the court process. They can explain the process, accompany victims to court and assist them in getting reimbursement for injury. Victims of domestic violence can also obtain free counseling for themselves and their children.

The Domestic Violence Division prosecutes stalking cases and violent crimes committed by or against a “family or household member” or by or against those in a dating relationship. This may include: a spouse or ex-spouse, a present spouse of an ex-spouse, parents, grandparents, stepparents, adoptive parents and foster parents, children, grandchildren, stepchildren, adopted children and foster children, anyone related to you by blood or marriage, anyone you live or lived with, someone who you have a biological child in common with or, someone you are dating or used to date.
What Is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is an escalating pattern of abuse where one partner in an intimate relationship controls the other through force, intimidation, or the threat of violence. Abuse may come in many forms.

Physical abuse is the use of physical force against someone in a way that injures or endangers that person. Any situation in which a person is forced to participate in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity is sexual abuse. People whose partners abuse them physically and sexually are at a higher risk of being seriously injured or killed.


  • Hitting, pushing, shoving, slapping, choking, punching, kicking, grabbing, beating, throwing a person down, tripping, twisting arms, biting, using a weapon.
  • Threatened Physical Harm
  • Unwanted, forced sexual activity, making a person do sexual things against their will, physically attacking the sexual parts of a person’s body, etc.

Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behavior also fall under emotional abuse. Additionally, abusers who use emotional or psychological abuse often throw in threats of physical violence or other repercussions if you don’t do what they want.


  • Stalking
  • Intimidation
  • Mind games, name calling, put-downs, public humiliation, and manipulation.
  • Jealousy, possessiveness, and lack of trust.
  • Forced isolation from family and friends.
  • Controlling what the victim does, who the victim sees or talks to, where the victim goes, relocating to a remote area, etc.
  • Threats of violence, suicide, or of taking away the children.

Economic or financial abuse includes:


  • Rigidly controlling finances.
  • Withholding money or credit cards.
  • Making the victim account for every penny they spend.
  • Withholding basic necessities (food, clothes, medications, shelter).
  • Restricting the victim to an allowance.
  • Preventing the victim from working or choosing their own career.
  • Sabotaging their job (making you miss work, calling constantly)
  • Stealing from the victim or taking their money.


If you are in an abusive relationship or have been sexually assaulted, or if you know someone who needs help, please call 1-800-522-SAFE (7233).

The Safeline is a toll-free accessible 24-hour hotline for individuals seeking help or information about domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking.

The Safeline offers:

  •   Confidential calls with trained individuals who understand issues of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking.
  •  Assistance in safety planning
  • Referrals to crisis centers, shelters, and other state resources

Help is available in 150 languages

If you are in immediate danger, please call 9-1-1.

Domestic Attorneys

Abby Nathan